Husbands nagging wives not to go to work. Wives nagging husbands to come home early. Girlfriends nagging boyfriends to stop flirting on Facebook. Boyfriends nagging girlfriends not to dress in a certain way.
We all know what comes after, right? If wifey dearest wants to go to work, she goes to work, there is no point saying the same thing over and over again. If girlfriends are adamant about the way they want to dress then there is no point in you nagging about wanting to be her personal fashion stylist or in some cases, fashion police. Doesn’t work that way. ( just sayin' ! )
Constantly blabbing about something which is pestering someone’s personal space and/or disturbing the energy and peace of the situation the person is inhibiting in(we all have our personal space), is not an ideal situation by which you can gain your attention to get your point across.
But then again, there are pros and cons to every situation I believe except, however, I couldn’t find any pros to being dead, but that’s besides the point.
We have all turned into that 'nagging wife’, constantly trying to put our points across. I mean we should be considering the moment and the situation and also (it may sound crazy) maybe even the time
of the day we choose to talk about a certain matter ( i’m not even kidding ).
The whole point that i’m trying to make here is, there’s no point nagging if you want to get your point across or you want to achieve a positive outcome of a certain situation. There is no situation you
can't win over. You just have to play with it, dance with it, and influence the right temperature/season
to achieve the outcome you desire.
When you say something and you keep repeating the same thing over and over again hoping that you will be heard? You’re wrong my friend, you are creating a greater disconnect between you and the person or the people you are trying to engage with.
Same thing works for business, your social circles and your personal relationships.
Now my friends, there is a big problem.
In a hyper connected world, where the world is only a small town now, we are losing the ‘human touch’. I feel the more connected we are becoming digitally, the farther we are straying ourselves away emotionally and thus affecting the overall status of our relationships as a whole.
In this hyper connected world, relationships are not what it was like before. Let me tell you why. Anyone we want to talk to or reach out to is only a click away, with numerous social media platforms sprouting every other day we have a plethora of choices when it comes to who we want to be with now. Due to this, the tolerance level in people is coming down, well, in most cases if not every. What do I mean about the tolerance level? I mean back in the days when the internet or the social media was not in it’s prime, the relationship quality were attuned to patience and that patience came from attention; complete focused attention to the person you are interacting with. However, now the scenario is kind of like 'i don’t have time, if you love me tell me and we can move on to deep waters or I already have others poking, nudging and texting me ‘.
Strong relationships are built gradually over time and proper care.
I love technology, but not at the cost of losing genuine relationships where attention is the capital. In a recent study, it says that the human attention is less than a goldfish’s attention span now which is less than 8 seconds, whereas a goldfish has an attention span of 9 seconds. Now that, is scary.
I think every once in awhile we should switch off, connect with nature as nature gives soul it’s texture and thus helps us reconnect with all the people around us outside the ‘screens’ and all the 'beeps' that demand our constant attention. Next time, try to really listen, connect and respond to whoever you are talking to in-person, hear their intonations, their pauses and response and respond accordingly and in due time your relationship quality will soar, trust me.
I can’t help thinking that the best things in life are going to waste while we are texting, emailing and checking out twitter timelines. We are all staring into our mobile phones when we could be looking into the eyes of the people we love. ( big sigh!!!)