A great man once said, you want to be successful - start with your handshake, on another Tedtalks video I saw the other day mentioned that if you wanted to be successful start with saying your name right. So, there are so many variables to this discussion, but yet I can safely say that there are a few common grounds through which we actually create the situation for us to succeed, if not, at least closer to succeeding.
Since I am a big on 'Intuition' & 'Energy' kind of a guy and for me it has worked and still works, of course with the right intention - It is sure to work with anyone who genuinely imbibes this into a daily practice which will then become very effortless when we deploy them in real life situations.
In psychology, a first impression is the event when one person first encounters another person and forms a mental image of that person. Impression accuracy varies depending on the observer and the target (person, object, scene, etc.) being observed, was the description provided by google.
Our First Impressions actually determine the length, depth and the quality of our conversations.
So, the First Impression can be nearly impossible to reverse or undo, making those first encounters extremely important, for they set the tone for all the relationships that follows.
My mom used to say I could've been a good lawyer, but that didn't happen.
When I was a teen, my dad almost lost all his hope on me, almost. lol.
Who I was, Who I am & Where I want to be, are all shaped by the choices
we make at every point in our lives.
Eight (08) years ago when I first landed in Dhaka for the first time after completing my studies from the New York Film Academy, I didn't know that I would become an Entrepreneur, Marketer or even a Public Relations Practitioner that I am today, had no idea what life had in store for me but I was determined to be involved in shaping it.
When I think of my childhood, sometimes, all the great & good memories get overshadowned by the single biggest catastrophe to have happened in my childhood - my parents separated. And I became an esteemed member (along with my younger brother Andy) of the Children from the Broken Family Club. Sarcasms apart, I mentioned choices so let's just put it this way my mom never liked the fact that I would choose filmmaking as a career, she wanted me to be a banker but alas. She passed away few years after that, so if my parents were together maybe today I would have come to you with a different story. My dad on the other hand supported in everything I did and wanted to do.
My dad migrated to Dhaka right before his marriage, and we came from a family of very modest income.
So my childhood was super modest. While growing up I didn't have a robust set of friends that I used to hang around with always all of whom I am still in touch with. My world was only limited to my home & a handful of school friends. There is always a moment in time in your life that turns your life upside down, that happened to me, my whole world was turned upside down. It was that very moment I knew my life is going to change. A new world has been opened up to me, a pandora's box, i wanted in, I wanted more. And for that I needed to change myself and my surroundings and everything that I ever believed in - had to change.
to be continued...
"Great to hear your idea! So why don't you start? "
" I don’t know how to do this? "
BECAUSE I WANT TO DO IT is also not really a viable option
just because you think it will work doesn’t always mean it will,
also there are a lot of variables and debate to this discussion.
However, on the other hand, there are a lot of I DONT KNOW HOW TO DO THIS people,
I was too on the same page once, but I say this because I experienced a pole shift
in the way I use to think. It is true that to understand people, you need to understand yourself
first and I embarked on the "Know Thyself" journey where I am still figuring out parts of
me that will allow me to be more self aware of what I do and how I approach things and
help me take better decisions for my life and success. We cannot be anybody, but as uniquely
as possible we will be distinctly us. Each of us are wired differently but to get stuff done,
to get your life rolling, universally we are all wired the same way. We have to get up and start
dancing, we get up and take responsibility.
This is one of the greatest era to be live in, where you have all the information you require at your fingertips, to make the product you want, to make the connection you want, to make the relationships u want.
I believe these are all excuses.
Because you must be good in something
and if you are not you should not waste a
single time complaining rather than going
out and acquiring that skill you need to deploy
on your dreams.
What if I don’t have the leverage?
That is again another excuse for the fear of failure.
Ok you want to build a shoe company you go
out find someone who makes the shoes, you either make him
a partner or you could hire him if you have the money,
you don’t know how to market them? find another partner
who knows marketing and work it out.
And what if you don’t want a partner, then you should go ahead
and apply and spend all your time learning about the craft of
making shoes, learning about marketing, sales and then using
those skills to get your brand on to the market.
So you see? In this year 2017, where all the information you need
is at your finger tips? There is really no scope to complain - you have Youtube,
Google and a dozen other sites providing you each and every information you
require to do anything that you want to do in your life.
This is one of the greatest era to be living in, where you have all the information
you require at your fingertips, to make the product you want, to make the connection
you want, to make the relationships u want. If we don’t collectively use this opportunity
then then we are all doing us a big disfavour.
And the only way we can guarantee that any of the things that I said will work? is we have to try, over and over and over again, i know it is easier said than done. But I give you my word,
if we put all our time in building us, learning , gaining knowledge and
studying the things we can IMPLEMENT, that is when our lives will
start to change for the better.
Bottom line is, Yes we can.
Excuses won't work, we have to.